The foundations of our sense of self and others are laid down in the earliest months of life. These schemas or states of mind toward attachment continue to influence, and, most importantly, are themselves influenced by the vicissitudes of our adult relationships. Understanding the nonverbal “language” of infant/caregiver relationships offers a way to understand adult intimate relationships, especially in working with profoundly stuck or out of control relationships. In addition to understanding the nonverbal cues that trigger these patterns, this course will also look at how this understanding can reveal the developmental longing that underlie them. Couples therapy can then become a development-enhancing modality. The course will take place on three consecutive Monday evenings.